The Bee Tea

We are still recovering from Annie’s first “girlfriend” birthday party yesterday!  Just before she graduated from japanese youchien/kindergarten, her class had done a play taken from last year’s full-feature anime about the life of a bee, called Mitsu Bachi Hachi.  Since February, she has wanted a “bee” themed birthday party, so we had a bee tea party (a week before her real birthday because next weekend is busy with other school/travel events).  This was the first time she has had a birthday party that was for her friends, and not just a few families we are close to who gather to celebrate her.  We invited eight girls, but with moms, some siblings, a dad and an aunt, we had around twenty-five here over the course of the afternoon.  One family ended up staying longer and joined us for a simple spaghetti dinner.

Here are some photos from the day.  The girls made bee mobiles and at the end of the party did a pinata, a first for all the guests.

A few of my favorite things about the party:

1) It was fun to introduce our Japanese friends to some America “tea” kinds of things – a variety of tea sandwiches:  cucumber and mint; tomato and basil and cream cheese; egg salad, and of course peanut butter and jelly; blueberry muffins, fruit, and little cookies. All decorated with little beaded bees (thank you Oriental Trading Company!)  It was incredibly hot, so we went with cold teas – mint and peach iced tea and lemonade.

2) Once every two years, I have a chance to pick my favorite flowers from our own garden to decorate our home – hydrangaeas.  Because we are in the U.S. every other summer, I miss the June blooming during that time.  I love this flower, and the fact that we can celebrate Annie during this time!

3)  “Err on the side of graciousness.”  When we have a hard time deciding who to invite, we try and go with this simple rule.  We hesitated to invite so many girls (realizing that 8 girls in Japan could become twenty-five!), but we are really glad for everyone who came and the chance to have so many in our home.  It was great to have two fellow Asian Access moms and daughters join us and help with the entertaining, and our college friend Grace was a huge help as well.

4)  We have prayed (as have many of you) for God to help Annie develop special friendships the past few years.  She is more reticent in this area, as well as in using Japanese.  The past six months or so have been a season of her making significant friends and developing confidence in her Japanese ability. We thank God for this and for our very special and gifted (almost) seven-year old daughter.

Healing the Brokenhearted

Life has felt very full… my blogging time (kids in bed- late night) has been full the past week with working on some insurance issues, planning events/hotels/homestays for several upcoming teams, looking for flights for a possible trip home, correspondence that we have put on and various other things.  So no blogging time!~

Several have emailed about an aftershock/earthquake that happened up north again – upgraded last night to a 7.1.  Eric has noticed that Japan is no longer headline news on CNN’s homepage…. but yesterday’s quake made it to the top ten.  Jim Peterson, one of our missionary friends who served the first two weeks after the 3/11 quake with Eric up in Sendai, was up in that area when this latest quake occurred.  He wrote this on his blog yesterday:

Last night we stayed at the base camp in Miyako City. Just as we were getting up, around 6:51AM I heard the rumbling begin. We had felt a small aftershock last night as we were getting ready for bed but this morning I distinctly heard it before I felt it. Within a second or two the building began to rattle, and although there wasn’t any violent shaking or large movements the intensity was noticeably stronger than most little aftershocks. And it kept going for quite a while; possibly 30 seconds or so.

In a region where aftershocks are still an almost daily occurrence three and a half months after the big one, people hardly react at all when the trembling begins yet again. The good news is that the frequency and intensity of the aftershocks is clearly decreasing with time. But then every once in a while there is an exception to that pattern; like this morning. Within minutes loud sirens began to wail throughout the city. Then we heard spoken warnings over the public broadcasts system; “We’ve just had a strong earthquake and a tsunami alert has been issued. Do not go anywhere near the water and keep posted for further instructions.” This is the emergency tsunami warning system. Automated steel gates along the coastline begin to close, warnings are sounded and people near the water know enough to quickly get to higher ground.

The sirens and warnings continued to sound for about thirty minutes. We were in a section of the city where no buildings were destroyed but many were partially damaged on March 11. Looking out the window I saw pedestrians, cars, trucks and even public buses coming and going. Surprisingly, just as many were heading toward the water as the other direction. Clearly these people were not too worried. We followed suit and carried on with our morning devotions, although with more than a few extras prayers for the safety of the residents of Miyako. In retrospect, these residents have heard the warning sirens over and over again throughout the years. Nine times out of ten the waves never come, and even when they do it is usually just a matter of water levels rising a few centimeters before going back to normal. Furthermore, they now know what kind of earthquake it takes to create a giant tsunami like the one on March 11, and today’s rattle was clearly not that sort of shake. So perhaps it was only normal for the people in that part of the city to largely ignore the warnings.

And yet being overly cautious has always been the goal of the emergency warning system. Any time there is even a remote chance of a tsunami the sirens sound and the warnings are issued. Steel gates in the seawalls close automatically and schools immediately put into practice all that they have rehearsed in their regular tsunami drills. Signs along the roads all point drivers and pedestrians toward safety. This emergency tsunami warning system is arguably the best in the world. And yet we are surrounded by the incredibly vivid reminders of how that system ultimately failed just three and a half months ago.

Nearly thirty thousand lives were lost on that day. Hundreds of thousands became homeless. Countless others lost their jobs and almost everything that defined “normal” life for them. Now we are being faced with the burning question; “Who is my neighbor?” Or more specifically, are we as individuals, and as a church, prepared to show unconditional love and compassion toward the survivors in the name of Jesus Christ? The good news today is that based on the limited pieces that I’ve witnessed each and every time I’ve come to Tohoku, the clear and bold answer to that question is a resounding “Yes!”

Please keep praying for the people of Japan.  To many here, it is old news as well.  If their lives are not directly affected we notice that Japanese do not talk about the tsunami.  But for those still in the midst of the devastation, daily life continues to be difficult.

I will have my first chance to go up to the Tohoku area since the quake.  I will be joining a team of four counselors from Hawaii who have a burden for doing kokoro no care – heart care.  They are an amazing team and we are blessed to have their expertise and compassion in Japan.  We will be going to Ishinomaki for 4 days, and then they will come down and bless the people in our area, and those who are doing ongoing relief.  If you live in Japan- we are still looking for opportunities for them to minister in the Tokyo/Osaka areas – weekend of July 2nd for Tokyo;  July 9th for Osaka area).  Please contact me if you are interested.  And pray for God to open up the right doors for this team.

Our friends from L.A., Joseph and Yumiko, will also be going up to serve in Ishinomaki for several weeks.  I’m excited to connect with them, and our short-term Asian Access teams doing ongoing ministry as well.

Thanks for praying.  There is still so much need…. Japan is a hard country in which to minister for many reasons, but one is because counseling/psychology is still somewhat taboo.  Everyone wants to seem “fine”, when the reality is that suicide rates have doubled in the past three months and there are huge gaping wounds that cannot just be covered up.  Praying the truths of Isaiah:

The Spirit of the Lord God has taken control of me!  The Lord has chosen and sent [us] to tell the oppressed the good news, to heal the brokenhearted, and to announce freedom for prisoners and captives.”  Isaiah 61:3

 

Watch this Nine Minutes!

Life has felt incredibly full this week.  We are very thankful for Grace B., our college student who is here working with us, and we are excited as we prepare for three teams coming to Japan this summer and another high school friend Laura who is coming for a few weeks.  We feel really blessed by all that God is doing and how he is bringing people to be part of it.

Tonight I want to share an amazing nine minutes with you- it is worth the watch!  (And not just because Eric is in it).  Healing Hands Int’l sent three or four staff for a week to work up with the Tohoku team where Eric and others were ministering.  This video is hundreds of hours of video that they have done an amazing job condensing and summarizing what God has been doing.  We couldn’t have asked for a better summary of what we are excited about;  how God is using many people and relief funds to touch many lives.  Thanks for giving, for praying, for encouraging us these past few months.  Take a look at what’s going on, and know that it’s worth it all.

HEALING HANDS INTL | JAPAN RELIEF DOCUMENTARY from Franklin Pictures LLC on Vimeo.

Radiation and other Updates

We have not heard much for awhile about the radiation situation- I think we have not been paying close enough attention to the news.  We are not alarmists, but realize that there are still long-term ramifications on the affects of the nuclear crisis that is still going on.

A missionary friend who lives in Shizuoaka (about an hour south of Tokyo) just wrote this update in an email update to friends and supporters.  This was new information to us:

The papers today revealed that Green Tea in Shizuoka prefecture is “contaminated with radioactive cesium at a level of 679 becquerels per kilogram, above the permitted maximum of 500 becquerels.”  First alerted about this 1 month ago, the local government  waited until they could do their own testing (and continued to allow the sale of the most valuable first cut green tea) before releasing their results to the public.  42% of the tea produced in Japan comes from our area so this could potentially have a devastating affect on the local economy not to mention the fact that one of my daughters drinks about 2 liters a day of green tea!

2.  AND, the national government just admitted that the nuclear incident was not just a “melt down” but the much more serious “melt through.” They are still not sure (or they aren’t telling us yet)  if or how much radioactive material melted through the containment facility and/or leaked into the ground. REGARDING these two current admissions, we are still, basically, in a safe place in Japan.

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Prime Minister Kan has signaled that he is likely to step down in the next month or so due to the Opposition Party and the nuclear reactor problems that continue.  Today thousands of Japanese staged anti-nuclear demonstrations in Tokyo and other cities as radiation apparently continues to leak out.

Discovery News wrote this week:  “Japan has more than doubled its initial estimate of radiation released from the crippled Fukushima nuclear plant in the week after the March 11 tsunami, ahead of the launch of an official probe Tuesday.”

LevanjilTV.com news and CNN reports this:  The number of suicides in Japan hit a two-year high in the month of May, according to data released Wednesday by the nation’s authorities.   For the first time in two years, the monthly suicide number topped 3,000 in the month of May, the National Police Agency said.  The report says suicides in Japan totaled 3,281 in May 2011, up nearly 20% from the same month last year.

Keep praying for Japan!  What a crazy, terrible three months this has been for this country.  It may not be in the news too much anymore, but there continues to be many needs, many reasons for us to be here; so many ways to pray.  There is no more important time that I can think of then a time such as this for us to pray to God to come and change hearts, and systems, and this nation.

On Becoming a Lice Professional

You can get a sense of what our lives are like when one day our blog talks about tsunami relief efforts up north and then, I return to the realities of scourging lice in the next.  Hopefully, this is our last entry (for awhile!) on this topic.

While still being cautious, I want to tell you that sixteen days later we are now – very tentatively – lice free.  I have not dropped my vigilance! — I am still scared every night I check every head in our family and am constantly changing pillowcases just in case — but things are looking good.

Now that I am a self-proclaimed lice professional, here are my recommendations for any moms down the road who experience the same panic that I did when I got that dreaded call from the school.  (I have to say there has been great commiseration from more people than I ever expected who have gone through this as well.  I found out that right now the Christian school on the other side of Osaka has had a really bad problem with their girls and lice- they have instituted a no-hugging policy to try and stop it).

Here are my recommendations for getting rid of lice in your family, in my own order of priority:

(Note:  we used the pharmacy lice shampoo for a week, and the lice came back after nine days before doing the last dose.  It did not seem effective enough.  Others have found it really effective, but I was concerned about using such strong shampoo for another week on children, based on what I have read about its toxins).

1) Buy a lice metal comb at the drugstore and use it EVERY night for about ten days.  The plastic ones that come in the shampoo boxes for lice do NOT work to remove the eggs from hair.  You need the metal comb;  and you need to go through each child’s head meticulously, every night.  Sometimes I found it easier to use my fingers than the comb, but the comb helps during the initial infestations.

2) Denorex  Shampoo – This was the number one recommended de-licer.  You can use it every night on your whole family safely (or at least safer than the official lice shampoo).  It is a strong dandruff shampoo – the first night leave it in everyone’s hair for 30 minutes while they are showering, then rinse.  It will feel cold and tingly on their scalps.  Then rinse it out, and use it every night for at least a week.  We are continuing for two weeks – just in case.

3)  Buy a small bottle of tea tree oil (Amazon Japan has one company that sells it for 980 yen).  Add about ten drops to your favorite conditioner  – use it after the shampoo and keep using it.  Lice hate the smell and apparently it helps prevent lice from coming back.  We also put ten or twelve drops with water in a small pump bottle and use it every morning when the kids go to school and I do their hair. You can use this oil to clean your hairbrushes and put a few drops into your laundry as well.

4)  Mayonnaise or olive oil the hair once at the beginning – apparently this smothers the live lice.  In the sink or shower massage a significant amount into the hair- all over – and wrap with several layers of saran wrap.  Leave on for at least one hour, then rinse.  You can then use the denorex shampoo and conditioner.  Some recommend keeping this in overnight – I couldn’t do that to our kids.

5) Coat the hair in vinegar after the rinse.  Seriously.  This helps loosen the nits that are stuck on the hair.  We did this the first three nights and then stopped when most of the eggs were gone. My daughters’ hated this the most, and it is sting-y on eczema or sores, so it is better to do this step in the sink.

6) LAUNDRY everything- bedding, pillowcases, pajamas, towels, couch pillows and blankets, and vacuum well.  We have changed pillow cases and towels every night this past week; and I’ve changed the sheets every other night.  Thirty minutes in the dryer works as well.

7) Cut hair if you can!  Short hair is a lot easier to find the nits. We cut our two boys’ hair. I have kept my long-haired daughter’s hair braided (the one who happens to be totally into Rapunzel/Tangled right now – I can’t bear to break her heart by cutting it).

8) Be diligent – every night- in looking for the nits.  The ones within a few centimeters of the scalp are the ones you need to be most concerned about.  They are usually shiny and off-white.

9) Follow the lead of  Betsy Ten Boom and Annie Takamoto- and practice the discipline of thanking God even for lice that have stolen six hours of your day.  I realized after several days of trying to thank Him as sincerely as possible (sometimes with gritted teeth!) – that one of the wonderful results is that it includes God in the process of what I amdoing… it allows him to enter into my bad days and my frustrations.  I don’t need to do this alone.  He wants to take the lead – and it is a beautiful thing to give away the lead and let him bear it with me.  We stilll found nits and a few lice for several days after, but I didn’t feel alone.  I could thank God, and remind him that HE needed to clean up this problem.  I don’t need to understand all of his purposes, but I can trust Him.

So, as my back has continued to not get better and cause considerable pain, I have begun thanking God (once again sometimes with gritted teeth) for my lower back pain.  And once again, God is reminding me as I do this that He is involved in my pain, that He cares for me, that I can trust Him.

Homecomings

Ian was having a really bad night.  He just kept crying and crying in his crib, no matter what I did to pacify him.  I think in the end he just wanted me to bring him downstairs, and that wasn’t going to happen at 10:30 pm.  He finally fell asleep, and I was able to relax for awhile by watching the NEW Hawaii 5-0 on television – yessss.

About an hour later I heard the front door open.  I knew that Grace was getting ready for bed in her room.  Our kids were all nestled in bed upstairs.  Our neighbor friend Yasko will always open the door and right away say, “Hello” so I don’t get freaked out.  But no one said hello;  I just heard them move to the living room door and open it.  It was ERIC!  Home 24 hours early!  He hadn’t picked up when i had called about Ian crying – now I know why.  he was on the train on the way back;  he took a taxi from the station and surprised me to pieces.  The most wonderful surprise.

We have had an hour or so to sit and debrief;  I have loved hearing his stories.  I feel like I know these Ishinomaki friends even though I have never met them!  He has had a chance to work with some amazing teams and meet some wonderful people.  Here is a picture at a barbeque this weekend, with several teams combined all making up the Be One group.  Eric is taking the picture:

The one story I want to share tonight is about the next-door neighbor to the Be One home.  I wrote earlier about her comments to others that the Be One people are fixing up everyone’s homes before their own.  On the last visit, she had told Eric that she is hoping to get someone to help fix her roof.  During the tsunami, the water had lifted up her big metal storage shed and rammed it into the roof, also smashing the rain gutter.  She didn’t know when she could get someone to take care of it.

This week there has been a construction team from the U.S. working on the floors of the Be One home.  God’s providence had sent George up with Eric last weekend – his company does wood fittings and floorings for home — he was able to assess the flooring needs from a Japanese perspective, visit shops nearby that had the right goods, and arrange for visits this week from the companies necessary to make things happen for the construction team to get the floors in.  He wrote me an email that expressed how thankful he was to KNOW that God wanted him up there last weekend for this exact timing.

Back to the main story.  Eric mentioned to the construction  team the roof of our friend next door, and they got on it. Chad’s brother Matt is heading up the crew.    They did a beautiful job repairing her roof and rain gutter;  she could not adequately express her thanks.  Over the past few weeks she had delighted in serving the team in different ways — bringing them popsicles on a hot day; preparing and serving fresh octopus, bringing them drinks… It has been a mutually enjoyable relationship between the team members and her.

Today when Eric was visiting the work site, Mrs. K. brought her son and his wife over to meet the whole crew. Her son thanked the team repeatedly for all they had done shaking hands with everyone there. He stood there looking at the team not moving until he lifted his hands toward his face to wipe away tears.  Then his shoulders started heaving and he started sobbing uncontrollably.  So the construction team surrounded him and gave him bear hugs (I’m crying as Eric is telling me this!).  Then the son shared how he and his wife had lost their home nearby (about ten minutes away) in the tsunami;  but because his job was down in Sendai (about an hour south), he and his wife had to live in an evacuation center down near his job.  He expressed his regret at not being able to do anything to help his mom during the recent months.  We realized that his tears were of gratitude for how the team was taking care of his mom.

She had asked Eric if it was ok to give her son one of the remaining fans from the twenty five that she had secretly passed out at night.  The team was so glad to give him one to take back to the evacuation center.  We pray that these relationships will continue to grow;  that hope will keep rising.  All praise to our Father for the work of healing and redemption that He is doing in the midst of what had only held despair.

Friendship Prayers

Two little things that have made me very thankful in the past 24 hours about friends.

1) A knock on the door last night from our friend Yasko – who brought us our first Krispy Kreme donuts in Japan!  She waited in line in Osaka to bring them over.  The kids loved their surprise breakfast.  What a great friend.

2)  Yesterday Annie told me that if I wanted to meet her new friend A., I should wait at the park for them to walk home from school.  So I did today.  If it was important to her, it was important to me.  It did my heart wonders to see two smiling girls walking hand-in-hand. A. asked us to walk home with her and see where her house is.  The two of them have been walking home together for weeks and developing a sweet little friendship.  I had a chance to meet her mom and get to know her a little.

Shortly after we got home, a mom friend called to see if her daughter H. could come over and play with Annie.  It was so fun to hear the girls playing away in Japanese out in our yard!  I am very thankful for God’s work and for so clearly answering our prayers for our daughter in the areas of learning Japanese and building friendships.

“There is magic in the memory of school[girl] friendships; it softens the heart, and even affects the nervous system of those who have no heart.”
– Bejamin Disraeli

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Eric and I had a hard time getting a cell phone connection tonight – I was sad we couldn’t talk better but still glad for a few minutes.  I miss him being around here and getting to talk to him about all the things that happen in a day’s time.   After a day of different clean-ups and ministry, the team went down to the Ishinomaki beach.  There they had a prayer time to remember the victims of the tsunami that hit this city and those new friends to whom they are ministering.  God- give them strength for each new day.

Fans and Gardens

Just a brief update from Eric and the teams up in Ishinomaki.  Eric is working this week with a team of summer and long-term Asian Access missionaries.  This morning they spent at a coin laundry doing their own laundry plus that of a construction team that is there working on the Be One home.  Then they went shopping.  Eric bought 25 electric fans to distribute in the neighborhood.  He went and asked the neighbor the best way to distribute them, and she arranged to have them picked up by word of mouth at dark.  She was afraid that the word would get out and it would get tricky.  Eric assured her that they will buy more if they are needed.  It is not a big purchase, but will make a huge difference in the heat of summer!

They also have worked this week on clearing out a large area that will be used for children in the community to plant gardens.  Isn’t that such a great idea?  Here are two photos of the team at work.  Roberta is in the first photo;  Nozomi is in the second.  Please pray for one of the team members who lost his wallet several days ago.  Our kids have been praying and we are hoping for a miracle.


Desperate Measures


Head Lice:  5;  Sue:  about 2.3 perhaps

Oh my. I sadly let my mind go tonight and think about the number of books I could have read (?or written?); the number of cakes I could have designed, baked and decorated – over the course of the time that I have been battling head lice!  Today the exhaustion from just the daily amount of laundry I am doing to keep then at bay, an email from a friend L. who shared about the four months (MONTHS!!!!) her family battled lice ending in cutting off her three daughters’ locks on the back porch with tears flowing everywhere, and word from our local pharmacist that lice is a big problem right now in our neighborhood — has driven me to taking more drastic steps with our children.

First – for the girls — I went with the mayonnaise soak – slathered throughout their hair;  wrapped in plastic wrap for an hour or two…(yes, Liv is holding her latest pet lizard)…

The mayo is rinsed out; hair conditioned, then smeared with warm vinegar.  At this point they sat out on the front step while I went through their hair with a special comb.  Oh the fun, the fun!!!  The hours!  Then they shampooed again with Denorex.  We are going to do all but the mayo every day for the next week.

For the boys… there was only one smart thing to do:

Now nothing can hide in their heads.  They will be quite safe.  My own desperate measures may come in the next day or two….

But perhaps the most desperate measure came at dinner tonight.  My friend L. told me in her email that she had shared with her girls the story of Corrie Ten Boom.  So as we sat in McDonalds tonight and I was getting up the courage to get my boys’ hair buzzed for the first time ever, I told them the story.  Corrie and her sister Betsy who smuggled Jews in their Dutch home in the early 1940s… getting caught – the two sisters being sent to one of the worst German concentration camps.  Being put into a warehouse with hundreds of women crammed into dirty bunks… and terrible lice everywhere.  The guards who ignored their cries for medicine or kerosene to kill the lice.  Betsy told Corrie they needed to thank God for the lice.  Corrie could barely bring herself to do it.  But she did.  They had smuggled in part of a bible, and each night the women would gather around the Ten Booms’ bed for reading, encouragement, and prayer.  The atmosphere in their building changed as the hope and power of God filled it.  But they kept wondering why the guards did not come in during the evening and stop their study, or check on them.  They had complete freedom to study the bible and share the hope of the Gospel.  Later, they found out the reason no guards came in was — because of the lice.  Even though the food had come at this point, the kids waited to dig into their nuggets until they heard the rest of the story… and were sad to hear that Betsy died in prison.  I shared what a hero Corrie has been to my  – how the way she and her sister lived their lives has taught me a lot about how to live mine.  I’ve promised to show them the movie in a few years…

So Annie prayed for our food.  “Dear Jesus, thank you for this food.  And thank you for our lice.  Please help Daddy to come home soon.  Amen.”

So, like Corrie, I am slower than some members of my family at being able to say thank you.  Working on it!  Lice call for desperate measures.

 

Box Maker Responds

Eric and the team are doing well.  They had the chance to love on a neighborhood today with a barbeque lunch.  It was nice because there was time afterwards to hang out, share, and listen to stories.  After that they worked on Be One’s rental home – taking down walls and helping prepare it for the construction team that is there now.  George is a floor expert, so tomorrow he and Eric will go and talk to some professionals about what is needed to redo the floors in the home.  The team will also prepare for a food drop as well as another barbeque at a place where Eric and others have built a lot of relationships.

I wanted to post tonight, though, to let those who have been reading hear how God answered my specific prayers and needs from last night.  I wrote this before bed:   ” I am sure that when I wake up the Lord will sustain us all and bring deliverance.”
This morning I emailed our church friends that I wouldn’t be able to come because my back had again taken a turn for the worse.  One of the families with a high school daughter who has babysat before called and asked if they could take the kids to church and then for the afternoon.  All four were gone until 8 tonight!  I went back to bed this morning around 11 this morning and slept until 3 (when was the last time I have done that?), and then after that pretty much stayed on the couch until the kids came home and we began the de-licing procedures again.  It was a glorious, unexpected day.  By the time the kids came home I was again standing upright.  I am going to try and lay low for another day or two (as much as I can).  I was really overwhelmed today by God’s care for me through our community again, and how very lovingly He answered the prayers of friends who have been praying and did not allow the pressure to be too much.