Yesterday our good friend Hide came by unannounced with his fiance. They were excited to confirm that their wedding will be next March 3rd and we need to keep the date open – we wouldn’t miss it!
But we think the real reason he came by was to talk with Eric about his experiences up in Tohoku. Hide (and his brother and dad, in fact) is a police officer in Osaka. The day after the earthquake, he was in an entourage of police cars and rescue vehicles that drove up the twelve hours with sirens blasting to be part of rescue work immediately after. He spent a week, and has since been up three times for a week since then.
His mom, our former mail delivery lady, had come by the night before and heard about Eric’s three trips up north as well. Hide and Kumi came by and he was so happy to have someone who understood what he has experienced. He said he comes home and it is as if the earthquake and tsunami never happened; no one talks about it, life goes on as normal. But for him, it is not normal.
The day after the tsunami he and his fellow officers were sent out to look for survivors, as well as bodies. He said it was like the worst war movie you could imagine. He would find a car on its side, with a whole family inside who had tried to escape the oncoming water but could not. Only official police/rescue workers were allowed to do body recoveries, and so many of Hide’s days were like this.
He shared how they are all expected to be strong – that there is a mentality among all the workers that if they talk about what is hard that it shows weakness. so it’s not normal or ok to process what they have seen. There are no counselors or discussions on PTSD. Yet there are are many many like Hide who week after week are still assigned to look for bodies. When Hide goes back up at the end of this month, he expects that will continue to be his job… He said that even if they can only find hair samples now, the family members are extremely grateful.
Hide shared for quite awhile, sitting on our couch. We’re thankful that we were somehow a “safe” place where he could share. We are thankful for the various “kokoro no care” – counseling teams at work in Japan, and pray for more. We’re excited about three Christian professionals hoping to come to do counseling from Hawaii and hope we can put them to use. Keep praying for the people of Japan. There are many who are acting like this tragedy never happened; but so many who it has affected who need healing, care, and a Savior.
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Sue, I am so glad Hide was able to talk to you about his experiences. I cannot imagine how much bottled-up pain he must have in his heart.
It breaks my heart that these men don’t have counselors to talk with and process their suffering. I am so glad you are there for him.
Hey Sue, glad that Hide has a place to go to that he is able to process all that has gone on. I can only imagine how crazy it is over there. Tell Hide that I said congratulations! That is so exciting that he is getting married! I dont know if they do slideshows at weddings over there, but if they do, you should make sure that his “hula” pictures get in it! Praying for you guys
Hey Sue and Eric…I join others in a very BIG THANK YOU for taking the time out to give Hide a “safe” place in which to unload. It is something we all need from time to time. And his situation is just too overwehlming. I will also pray for more ‘teams’ to become available. It’s a time to pass on the blessings of Peace and healing that our Lord has given us.
Congatulations to Hide and Kumi on their engagement!!!
Hi Sue! Just read about Hide! Tell him congratulations and I’m excited for him! And I’ll be praying for him that through this experience the Lord may reveal Himself to him! Blessings!